If you missed this important distinction of goals, you could end up in a rabbit hole – constantly achieving but not necessarily being happy. According to Vishen Lakhiani of Mindavalley, it turns out there are two types of goals that normal people often confused.
Luckily Ilhamsays readers are anything but ‘normal’.
There are mean goals and end goals.
Mean goals are normally the milestone; just a step towards another target. Examples include, having RM100K in the bank, getting good CGPA or getting that promotion you are craving. These are the goals society wants you to have because they are easy to be defined, good for economy, and false understanding that they are the end by itself.
End goals are the good ones. They are goals which define the definite outcome of the things we want. These are normally reflected to the tune of experience, growth and contribution. For example, travelling (experience and growth), connecting deeply (experience), learning new skills (growth), and anything which originates from your values. At this form it will resemble more of vision ie ‘to live courageously’ and ‘to live in freedom’.
One specific example from my own (mistake).
I recently embarked on a project which requires me having RM100K in the bank within 4 years (still long way to go). Had I not known this distinction, I would be hell-bent to getting that amount of money and forget the true reasons.
Even worse, a lot of people don’t know why they need to have those money target. More often than not, it is simply because money is a common indicator of ‘worth’. There are people I knew who strive for money on its sake. Once it is achieved, then perhaps an RM200K project is on the card, eh? Thus, a ridiculous cycle for unending quest starts.
So, do you ditch mean goals altogether?
No, you don’t have to. It’s still beneficial to have mean goals that are balanced with knowing the whys. If you don’t have the whys, stop and think hard. This is the question you need to answer.
- Is it the status you associated with the things you can buy with the money that brings you there?
- Is it the ability to contribute freely to others?
- Is it due to security?
Looking at it this way, it’s possible that you can actually realize your end goals using other means. If you have realized contributing freely to others is your end goal, then perhaps you don’t require RM100K to start giving. Limiting your expenses and giving away a % of your monthly salary can fulfill that end goals.
Review your goals so that you had the balance right. This way you would be doing the right things that are closer to your true self, rather than following the crowd. Let me know how you defined your goals within this two categories.